Christianity as a SPECIFIC way of being.

Jordan Peterson and Bishop Barron, Christianity as a Way of Being

Here's something I learned and fought off until I embraced it: 

When you get converted, or saved, you really need to embrace the full-life version of some group that are the people of God, something where they have a group-approved way to dress, walk, talk, limits of acceptable weirdness, and way of seeing everything.  

The heavy handed groups who spell those things out we call "cults." The friendly ones are churches with some kind of history and some kind of internal integrity.  The utterly fruitless and helpless ones are those who make no demands except for believing a few things and confessing a few things, which means they make no demands at all.

Understand this rightly: you can't find the *reality* of salvation by believing the gospel and confessing Jesus is Lord--which I believe to me necessary and non-negotiable, and if you go through getting saved in reality, GOD will bring you into The Church in some REAL expression. You can think of this step of the life of faith as what Baptism means, or, what makes Baptism make sense beyond just a hoop you have to jump through. (I understand that things we NEED to do in life LOOK LIKE hoops to jump through until after the fact.).  

You have to jump into the deep end of the pool, which means that we have to give up a shallow view of Christian life, and yielding up oneself to a *specific* version of a Christian way of Being.